“Women Can’t Have It All And Shouldn’t Even Try”

November 14, 2013 | Alyssa Condrey

This fall, NeW in DC* has been reading Deborah Spar’s new book “Wonder Women.” It has sparked an interesting conversation among young professional women who find themselves at a major crossroads in life; making important career and family decisions while trying to balance it all.

One of my favorite quotes from Spar that fits so perfectly with the mission of NeW is:

“Feminism was meant to remove a fixed set of expectations; instead, we now interpret it as a route to personal perfection. Because we feel we can do anything, we feel we have to do everything.”

I would like to hear from women reading this post, young and old.

Have you felt the pressure to have it all? To have the perfect job, perfect relationships, perfect family, perfect body, perfectly clean home?

How have you been able to find balance between your family and professional life?

What would be your advice to young women today?

If you haven’t read Spar’s book, I would encourage you to pick up a copy for yourself or at least read these reviews from The Huffington Post, The NY Times, and an article Spar wrote for Glamour Magazine “Why the Woman Who “Has It All” Doesn’t Really Exist.”

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!


*Are you a young professional in the DC area who would like to discuss current topics relating to women in the workplace with other conservative women? If so, we invite you to visit NeW in DC! You can lean more on our website or email me with any questions.

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