The recent census has shown that nearly half, or 100 million, Americans are single or unmarried. This week marks National Single and Unmarried Americans Week. Ever heard of it? I hadn’t until I read this NY Times Article.
The article expresses angst of what life in America is life for singles. The author and those quoted state that American laws favor married couples and even the marriage equality campaign is leaving singles behind. But, the article cites…it gets even worse for singles. They aren’t recognized for their contributions for society, which are significant. The Council of Contemporary Families said:
“It’s the unmarried, with or without kids, who are more likely to take care of other people,” Dr. Gerstel said. “It’s not having children that isolates people. It’s marriage.”
And, Dr. Gertsel adds that women who aren’t married are more likely to get involved with the government. What about the big names we know? Sarah Palin? Michelle Bachmann? Phyllis Schlafly?
The slippery slope continues. Women feel a lot of pressure to get married. There was a 2009 study called “I’m a Loser, I’m Not Married, Let’s Just All Look at Me.” conducted at the University of Missouri and Texas Tech University. They found:
“These were very successful women in their careers and their lives, yet almost all of them felt bad about not being married, like they were letting someone down,” said Lawrence Ganong, a chairman of human development and family studies at the University of Missouri.
Maybe it’s just female nature to want that stuff? Could that be the case? Or, are they putting on their blinders to the difference between men and women?
Then the feminists get in their say….
In researching her latest book, “A Strange Stirring: The Feminine Mystique in American Women at the Dawn of the 1960s,” Ms. Coontz found that in the past single people were often called “deviant,” “neurotic” and “selfish.”
“We do have the tendency to think that there is something special about married people, and that they are the ones who keep community and family going,” she said. “I thought it was important to point out that single people keep our community going, too.”
Yes, Americans are staying single longer and there are current laws protecting marriage and families but, does a National Single and Unmarried Americans Week really need to exist? Is this another plight for a feminist agenda?