Last week, The New York Times had another piece about dating in the 21st century. After several examples of bad “dates,” the article explores why there are such difficulties. For instance,
Traditional courtship — picking up the telephone and asking someone on a date — required courage, strategic planning and a considerable investment of ego (by telephone, rejection stings). Not so with texting, e-mail, Twitter or other forms of “asynchronous communication,” as techies call it. In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.
The poor dating world is also blamed on the economy:
Faced with a lingering recession, a stagnant job market, and mountains of student debt, many young people — particularly victims of the “mancession” — simply cannot afford to invest a fancy dinner or show in someone they may or may not click with.
But the article does end with a glimmer of hope for those who are fans of conventional dating, by telling the story of a young woman who refuses to settle for anything less than a normal date. She refuses to give in to last minute texts, emails, or group hangouts. I say well done to her.
Have you read this article, NeW reader? If so, what are your thoughts on millennial dating as portrayed in the Times?