The other day at work, my friend recommended the movie/mini series “Persuasion”, based on the Jane Austen novel. He then went onto tell me how the 2007 version is the one I want, not the one from the nineties,because the earlier version tries to do the “Emma” thing too much. If you are a girl who likes to read, chances are you know exactly what he means. I get along swimmingly with this guy, as he provides pearls of wisdom and stimulating conversation all the time. Not only is he brilliant but also, I think because he was raised with all girls, I find him especially fascinating.
While this is great, I think it’s interesting to note that the guy I have dated most seriously is an athlete; a home-grown good-hearted man’s man (his favorite song is “Simple Man” by Lynyrd Skynyrd, if that helps paint the picture). Now, on one hand I feel like women (and men too) are constantly complaining about the obstacles that the differences between the sexes bring into relationships. Sometimes you wish guys you dated really did enjoy the chick-flick or talking about their feelings. But is that actually what women want? As we saw in one of Karin’s previous posts, it seems masculinity in men today is highly undervalued. Maybe there are aspects of the differences between men and women which compliment each other.Obviously,it’s not so cut and dry. No matter how much a guy ‘understands’ you, if there’s no spark (I know its an insufficient word), that’s the end. However, there have been many a Rhett-Scarlett type relationship where there is plenty of spark, but differences create a significant amount of problems and are a burden more than an asset. I can’t help but notice, the guys who tend to ‘speak my language’ also tend to stay my dear friends and that’s it. How much of that contrast in natures is necessary, if any, for a good relationship?