What, Me Marry?

by Sarah on October 20, 2011 · 6 comments

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This is the cleverly titled cover article in this month’s Atlantic. Called “All the Single Ladies” on the web version, this is a long article that looks at the author’s dating life and her current singleness at 39, a status she may keep the rest of her life. Throughout the article she looks her history as a child of a second-wave feminist, the mindset of “marrying down” and the hook-up culture in college.  Beneath every topic she mentions is the underlying question: Is marriage as we know it dead? It is an interesting read.

The article, naturally, has attracted a lot of attention. The author has been on the Today Show, CNN and NPR. The New York Times weighs in on what kind of lesson this article will teach the next generation. The Hairpin, a comedy site for ladies, has an interview with the author as well, who argues that marriage is now an option, not a foregone conclusion.

I’m curious as to what NeW readers think about the article and her stance on marriage, the hook-up culture in college, and the dating culture at large. Is she spot on? Are there things amiss? How do the thoughts in this article tie into our Online Book Club discussion of Manning Up? Leave your thoughts in the comments!

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Author October 24, 2011 at 7:56 am

Feminism ruins lives, what else (in this case her mother’s raging feminism).


silent observer February 17, 2012 at 1:25 pm

Another victim of senseless radical feminism. Here she is. At 39, and after so many fruitless dates that she is mostly responsible for sabotaging. She is now announcing to the world that she wouldn’t marry. What a sore loser!
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Nothing beats knowing that someone got your back in good times and in bad. And that there is a family all your own. And kids who love and respect and ultimately support you. And a companion who you care for, and who cares for you. What is not to love in all these?
No. Feminism doesn’t want that. It’s all about “equality”; about who is “superior”; about who cooks and cleans. About independence. And making “my own money”.


Shelia August 5, 2012 at 9:35 am

She is not a loser. Not everyone is capable of having your back, yes even a husband. One who calls one a loser, is the loser.


Aissa March 8, 2012 at 3:22 pm

Wow, people! Since when did everyone become brainwashed with the idea that if you are not married and do not have a tribe of children, you are condemnded to a life of despair?
This is not 1953. Life is as fullfilling as one makes it. I did not read the full article but there is a difference between a real feminism and radicial feminism. Real Feminism has nothing to do with anger or resentment towards men.


Shelia August 5, 2012 at 9:37 am



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