In some unsettling news, a college student in New Zealand auctioned off her virginity to pay for tuition. All real love, all real romance, all meaningful commitment dies when virginity becomes characterized as a commodity. There is much at stake for all of us when a girl sells her virginity online to a stranger. We are pressed to ask: What is virginity? Who gets to define it? Why is it important?
Feminists must not be the ones to define virginity because they misapprehend womanhood entirely. The definition must be placed beyond their manipulation. Virginity is becoming a commodity because feminism has divorced women from their roles as wives and mothers. Girls have been taught to place a low premium on virginity because they have been deceived into placing a low premium on marriage. Virginity is becoming a commodity because feminists underestimate men. There are men who will offer women something far more respectful and permanent than $31,900 for loving them enough to wait. In a culture where the thought of two people waiting until marriage to consummate their love is ridiculed and deemed nearly impossible, there is no room for error in how we value virginity.
It falls upon conservatives to define virginity, truly and completely. Virginity is about so much more than simply not having sex. It's about saving certain areas of one's personality and life to share with only one other person. It involves personal development and nonsexual preparation. It gives us a sense of what is sacred and what is possible. It is the beginning of a history of intimacy. Virginity finds its highest expression not when we keep it, but when give it to the man we love and to whom we are committed. Virginity speaks to the first and last of our lives. Those who dare to put a price on virginity do not even begin to see how much it is really worth.