Valentine’s Day: A Real Relationship
Like many other people in Raleigh, I decided to see the movie Valentine’s Day on Valentine’s Day. This movie captures many kinds of relationships—young love, old love, romantic love, friendship love, hopeless crush, mother-son love and homosexual love. All the characters (too many big named actors to list) are bound together by a single day—Valentine’s.
There is a scene about mid-way through the movie in which a reporter interviews two high school students (Taylor Swift and Taylor Lautner) who were gushing about their love for each other. The reporter ends the interview by saying, “There you have it, young love—full of promise, full of hope, ignorant of reality.” Ignorant of reality. . .that phrase defined the whole movie for me. Many of the characters were unfaithful to the ones they claimed to love. If you really are in love with someone, don’t you fight for them? Don’t you fight for your love?
The elderly couple in the movie had the most real relationship in the whole movie. They had been married for several decades, but the Estelle, played by Shirley MacLaine, told her husband, Edgar (Hector Elizondo), that she slept with his business partner many years before. Edgar was devastated, naturally, and left to clear his head. At the end of the movie, Estelle found Edgar. She apologized and declared her love for him. She never gave up. Even though Edgar felt betrayed, he never stopped loving Estelle. She was the love of his life. They faced troubles, but they weren’t stubborn; both of them were apologetic and forgiving. Estelle and Edgar’s love was past the “honeymoon” love; they had become true partners in life. It was real.
Ashton Kutcher’s character says, “Love is the only shocking act left on the planet.” I think he is right. Love, true love, must sometimes contradict human nature. I do not believe that is what Reed, Kutcher’s character, meant by his statement; but that does not change its truth.