The Flip Side

by Danelle on April 5, 2011 · 6 comments

In my previous post, I hashed out a theory about modern day men being characterized in media and pop culture as idiots who cannot survive without women. Many commercials and TV shows such as Everybody Loves Raymond depict women as the smarter, more successful and cleaner person in the relationship with the man being goofy, clumsy, and incapable of making decisions. In the end, I questioned why modern radical feminists have moved away from gender equality - something women fought for in the sixties and seventies - and moved towards gender superiority - the very thing women fought against. I am not sure I can answer this question. Perhaps Second Wave Feminists feel they need to seek revenge against men of the past and their gender bias. Perhaps they truly believe men are inferior. Even though I am not confident of an answer, I think it is important to remind radical feminists that gender superiority in either gender is not something to be proud of or actively promote. Take a look at the picture to the side. You might find this funny at first. I admit, I did. However, it plants a dangerous seed of sexism in the minds of young girls, making it OK to discriminate. It also, once again characterizes men - just because they are men - as being "stupid." Now take a look at this picture on the left from the mid-twentieth century. The ad was banned, but someone made it as a reflection of men and women in society. It is a husband spanking his wife because she did not buy the "fresher" brand of coffee, the smarter choice. Do you see the connection between the picture on the left and the picture on the right? Why is it suddenly OK for women to demean men? It was never OK for men to demean women, and women overcame that through a long struggle. But I thought the struggle was for equality. I would also argue that I think our founding mothers believed so, too.  For example, Susan B. Anthony, a key figure in women's suffrage said: "Men, their rights and nothing more; women, their rights and nothing less. " Susan B. Anthony along with other women suffragists sought equality, not to flip the status of genders. Radical feminists of today are no better than the misogynistic men of the past. The bottom line is treat people with respect. Both of these ads - and much of what we see in pop culture - do not follow that line.

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Bob April 8, 2011 at 7:35 am

“Take a look at the picture to the side. You might find this funny at first. I admit, I did.”

I did not. But I’ll bet most of your fellow NeWers, if not all would be amused.

Danelle, what does it say about feminism in general and your feminism in particular that you found the image of a boy being pelted with rocks funny? You instinctively found it funny. Wow. Perhaps you should see how the human body looks after being pelted with rocks. I guarantee that “funny” will not be your first reaction, even if the target is a boy or man.


Julienne April 19, 2011 at 11:03 pm

Bob, logical fallacies in your argument aside, it’s amusing that you zeroed in on three sentences and seemed to have missed the entire post. Try reading for comprehension next time.


Bob April 22, 2011 at 6:22 pm

Julienne, try thinking for a change instead of spewing forth your dishwatery utterances. If you were thinking before posting, you might have noticed (and correctly pointed out) that I addressed only the first part of Danelle’s post while ignoring the second part.

Nice try. Better luck next time.


Ben May 11, 2011 at 10:43 pm

“Susan B. Anthony along with other women suffragists sought equality…”

Funny how Susan didn’t protest to fight and die in the Civil War.

Oops was I not supposed to say that?!

Sorry, must of slipped out of my mouth.

I guess there goes the rosy case for “equality.”

“Feminism: Fighting for Equality and ‘equal rights’ when it suits me.”

By the way:
I digress as “discrimination” is part of survival.


Rob July 13, 2011 at 12:07 pm

It’s too bad that you didn’t get more comments for this thoughtful post. I would honestly like to have some idea of what egalitarianism looks like but the problem is that I see it day to day…it has become very normal to see young women pursuing careers in sciences, economics and trades for example…but to hear some feminists talk men are actually evil. You almost get the impression that what progress has been made in social equality is pitifully ineffective, barely worth talking about, and that men on average are kicking and screaming against it. Anyway I would be interested in what answers to your questions you come up with.


Danelle July 28, 2011 at 12:10 pm

Thanks for the support, Rob. I think you are right–there are tons of obstacles women have overcome, yet feminists continue to persuade women that equality is not enough. It’s almost as if we were on the right path to equality after 2nd wave feminism, but then 3rd wave feminists decided to change course completely and seek superiority. Hopefully, the genders will find equilibrium someday. Granted, there will always be misogynistic men and man-hating women out there, but as in this post, media will be a good gauge to see how society changes (or hopefully changes) for the better. We’ll be watching!


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