The Fatherless Child-Man

by Stephanie on November 9, 2011 · 1 comment

Chapter Five of Manning Up focuses on the “history” of the child-man and his roots in industrialization and the idolized immaturity of the 20th century. Basically, Hymowitz believes it all comes down to the fact that men are no longer forced by societal, familial, or biological pressures to be responsible men and thus devolve into child men. In some aspects, I agree with her, but overall she misses the root problem and the appropriate cure.

The issue isn’t that young men don’t prove their manhood in some feat of outstanding courage, the issue is that modern fathers have abdicated their role as leader of the family and thus failed to show their sons what it means to be real men, men who work hard, protect those weaker and less fortunate than themselves, and who treat all women with absolute respect. Without someone to teach them, how can we expect young men to be mature and responsible, especially when our culture denigrates and derides them and basically tells them they are useless to society.

The onus also lays at the feet of women as well. In general, do we encourage and affirm the men in our lives and spur them on to be the champions and heroes they were meant to be or are we too busy becoming our own heroes or even worse, bashing men in general because of a sour past relationship?

What are you thoughts? Is today’s child-man just a product of our cultural history or is there more to the story?

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Jeanne November 14, 2011 at 3:08 am

There’s no pressure on men to grow up because women (falsely) believe they don’t need to marry a good man to raise kids. After all, women on top can marry the corporation (be a workaholic/spendaholic, then a “choice mom” because money talks) and women at the bottom can marry the government (poor single moms). So corporate greed and big sister government support the “feminism” which subtly encourages women to raise kids “free” of men and kick them to the curb because, after all, the job market favors women over men (we communicate well and work cheaper) and single women/men spend more money than married families. But I don’t think it will last forever in this economy – unemployed men can’t be consumers, and budget cuts can’t support Big Sister. I really hope it doesn’t.

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