When seeking a long-term mate, both men and women look for considerate, honest, interesting and loyal partners; but women care more about a mate's status and resources, men about a mate's youth and beauty. (Page 46) In and out of marriage, women say they engage in sex to share emotions and love. Men give reasons that are narrowly physical, such as need, sexual gratification and sexual release. (Pages 49-50)As we've progressed throughout this book, we have been referred back to the male mind and the female mind from the prehistoric times. Males were focused on creating a legacy and females were focused on caring for the children and her mate. Do you think that this mindset is still with us today? Are women and men thinking of survival when trying to find and keep a mate? Or are they thinking of something else? Are we focused on finding a soul mate, or just someone to fill a need? Looking forward to reading and discussing Chapter 4 with Marian next week, Fatherless Families!
In 1939, U.S. men ranked physical attractiveness 14th out of 18 desirable mate characteristics; in 1996, they ranked it 8th. In 1939, women ranked attractiveness 17th out of 18; in 1996, they ranked it 13th. (Page 54)Men think women are most beautiful when their estrogen levels are highest-at about the age twenty-two. (Page 58) Men who are in an exclusive dating relationship rate "babes" as less attractive than do uncommitted men; they also pay less attention to photos of the "babes" than do the uncommitted men. As psychologist R.S. Miller puts it, "Even if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, happy gardeners will be less likely to notice!" (Page 60) Every woman finds herself, without her consent, entered into a beauty contest with every other woman.(Page 60) An increase in male income increases the likelihood of marriage for cohabiting couples and decreases the likelihood of divorce for married couples. In contrast, couples with ambitious wives or wives with increasing income are more likely to divorce. (Page 61) Women are three times more likely than men to say they want "someone to look up to." They want to look up physically as well as intellectually. Men prefer a woman shorter than they are, and a woman a man who is taller. But on average men prefer her to be 4.5 inches shorter, while women want him a full 6 inches taller. (Page 67)