According to market research and stereotypes, I should be a liberal feminist.
I’m 28, single, educated with a master’s degree, living in an urban environment and working in the digital communications field. Yet I am a conservative woman. In fact, I advocate against feminism and support traditional marriage and gender roles.
Much of my conservatism stems from my faith and the influence of my mother. My grandmother was an early devotee to radical feminism, and she raised my mom to follow its tenets. But my mom rebelled. Even before she became a Christian, my mother explains that she “preferred to stay in her dorm and bake cookies than protest in the streets or burn bras.” In the midst of the 1970s, my mother instinctively understood the call of traditional womanhood. She raised me to understand that being a stay-at-home wife and mother does not make you a doormat, and equality with men does not mean shunning traditional gender roles.
It is easy to be lulled into the societal cult of feminism. On the surface, the movement is appealing. History has not always been kind to women. Why not ban together and support one another? Three generations out from the sexual revolution, aren’t we reaping the benefits of the fight for equality? I know that I’ve never encountered sex discrimination. Furthermore, in an era of broken families and failed marriages, the independence and empowerment that feminism teaches is a balm to hurting women, surrounded by men who have failed them. Yet we know that under the surface, feminism represents a dogma that limits personal freedom, toes the line of liberalism and actively seeks to destroy traditional values.
Feminism has completely invaded our culture and society. As Millenials, we were raised with a pop culture version of feminism in our entertainment, academics, sports, families and even churches. We were encouraged to go to college, work and then possibly think about marriage in our early thirties. Since girls could do anything they wanted, who needed a husband? Only lazy, bored women or religious freaks stay at home. It’s better to live with your boyfriend and “test the relationship” before settling down. Sex is just a pleasurable activity. Enjoy it but use protection. Your body should empower you. There's nothing wrong with exploiting it to your advantage.
The only problem? Many women long for tradition and only discover too late that the promise of feminism is empty. Our feminism-saturated culture sends conflicting messages. Women are more empowered yet unhappier. Marriage is now equal yet more end in divorce. We can climb the corporate ladder but feel chained to our careers. Somewhere in our DNA or societal imprinting, we crave domesticity. Feminism may have changed society’s rules, but it didn’t change women's hearts.
Feminism succeeded in the media, government and the classroom, yet it fails as a lasting movement because it opposes human nature. The movement can only succeed when bolstered by government quotas, mandates and funding. Without support from the US government, academia and the court system, the movement would end.
Under a thin veneer of equality, feminism hides a foundation built on Marxism that advocates a complete dismantling of our social, government and economic systems. At its core, feminism struggles against the “patriarchy” and encourages collectivism. Belief in the patriarchy goes beyond trashing men. Believers in the patriarchy hold that since the origins of civilization, men have conspired to keep women down. The patriarchy is so embedded in our culture, that women unknowingly raise male children to perpetuate the cycle of dominance in the boardroom and the bedroom. The only answer is to revolutionize society by eliminating the two main drivers of the patriarchy: capitalism and private property.
According to prominent feminist philosopher, bell hooks:
Feminism is a struggle to end sexist oppression. Therefore, it is a necessary struggle to eradicate the ideology of domination that permeates Western culture on various levels, as well as a commitment to reorganizing society so that the self-development of people can take precedence over imperialism, economic expansion and material desires.
Rory Dicker, author of A History of US Feminisms and professor at Vanderbilt University further explains:
…“domination” is the root of the problem, and domination occurs when one person or group has power over another….society needs to be transformed so that all systems of domination , including not just patriarchy but racism, imperialism, and capitalism, are eradicated. All of society would be free if the “ideology of domination” were eliminated; as a result, people would then be able to concentrate on “self-development.”
Feminism is essentially the gender version of Marxism. Yet, this is the dirty secret. Feminists spent the 80s and 90s masking their socialist foundations. Until Sarah Palin emerged, feminism was about “women making the best choices for their lives.” Now we know that feminism is really about “women making liberal-approved choices and trashing those who disagree.
As a conservative who believes that individuals should be empowered to better their own lives in order to improve society, I fundamentally disagree with feminism. While I believe that equality is inherent in the Constitution and the Bible, this philosophy and political movement opposes every core belief that I hold. It is possible to be a strong woman, yet choose traditional gender roles. It is acceptable to want a marriage and family and to be vocal about it. For too long, feminism has kept a stranglehold on what is acceptable for women to desire. Now, we find ourselves trapped in an unfulfilling, politically correct system.
As a woman empowered to make my own choices, I choose tradition. I choose conservative values. I choose to forget equality propaganda and allow men to open doors or pay for dinner. I choose to protect life and fight for the values that made our country great. I choose to ignore market research and stereotypes and boldly declare that I’m a conservative.