Divorce is a common occurance in our culture. Marriage once viewed as a life long commitment is seen as an agreement to stay together only if both parties are happy or in love:
In the 1970s and 1980s divorce laws changed creating “no fault” divorces. These laws allow couples to divorce for reasons other than breaking the marriage contract. After the 1960s, divorce rates doubled:
Recently, some states have adopted alternatives to “no fault” divorce by offering covenant marriages. These marriage contracts limit the grounds for divorce:
Happiness is supposedly why many couples choose to end their marriage. According to a group of researchers who assessed data from the National Survey of Families and Households, divorced adults were no happier after their divorce than they were before:
Divorce is not an isolated, cut-and-dry decision made by two people to end a relationship. Instead, divorce seeps into every aspect of that family’s life. More often than not, children are the recipients of the emotional baggage and skewed view of the marital relationship. According to Judith Wallerstein, children of divorced parents are more likely to suffer from pathologies:
In conclusion, healthy marriages are key to building healthy families and healthy communities. Of course, every marriage will have its trials. How we deal with those trials will determine whether our marriage grows stronger or grows weaker. Divorce is necessary sometimes; however, it should be seen as a last resort.