Last week, The New York Times
had another piece about dating in the 21st century
. After several examples of bad "dates," the article explores why there are such difficulties. For instance,
Traditional courtship — picking up the telephone and asking someone on a date — required courage, strategic planning and a considerable investment of ego (by telephone, rejection stings). Not so with texting, e-mail, Twitter or other forms of “asynchronous communication,” as techies call it. In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.
The poor dating world is also blamed on the economy:
Faced with a lingering recession, a stagnant job market, and mountains of student debt, many young people — particularly victims of the “mancession” — simply cannot afford to invest a fancy dinner or show in someone they may or may not click with.
But the article does end with a glimmer of hope for those who are fans of conventional dating, by telling the story of a young woman who refuses to settle for anything less than a normal date. She refuses to give in to last minute texts, emails, or group hangouts. I say well done to her.
Have you read this article
, NeW reader? If so, what are your thoughts on millennial dating as portrayed in the Times?