Joe McIlhaney, M.D., founder and chairman of the Medical Institute for Sexual Health, has published a new book entitled Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children. His book details the latest scientific findings on how casual sex affects the brain—and men and women differently. McIlhaney’s research argues exactly what NeW has been arguing all along—sex cannot be limited to just the physical experience. A chemical called oxytocin is released during sex providing a biological connection between the man and the woman. This causes the woman to emotionally bond to her partner and trust him. The result: women everywhere are left paralyzed, unable to use “good judgment” as they become attached to a man because of the release of a natural drug. McIlhaney calls this the “third risk” in casual sex. The first-pregnancy, the second—STDs and third—an emotional risk leaving women “hooked” on a person they may never in daylight consider a good mate.
So where does this leave us? In a culture inundated with casual hook-ups and birth control junkies, what’s a girl to do? Say no. It’s that simple. Recognize that there is a difference between life-long sex and the out-the-door, thank you ma’am sex that leaves us vulnerable and naturally attached to someone we thought was just “casual.” You may think that you can protect yourself from risk one and two, but the only protection from risk three—not having a brain.