Have you heard..of LAT relationships?

by Elizabeth on September 12, 2011 · 2 comments

Post image for Have you heard..of LAT relationships? LAT relationships are defined as Living Apart Together. It's when a couple that is still committed to each other, yet have two separate homes. I heard about it on NPR recently, and then again from another news source then again on this blog after a quick Google search. What is this new trend of relationships? How is this healthy? The blog argues that North America is behind the times...Europe is all over LAT. It's better, since individuals are becoming more independent, After all,  it just complicates life to combine assets, move in together and actually act like a traditional couple. It's also nice because if there is a break-up, it's easy to know who has what from the relationship. It gets rid of any and all risk ...right? WRONG. WRONG. WRONG. LAT relationships are like a mirage to the people that believe in them or the people that are accepting of them. While I don't find them attractive whatsoever, people that do are being tricked. Relationships are about risk - that's what makes them so worth it. Because if you are a strong couple, you overcome all odds together.  It brings you closer together and enhances the initial commitment you made to each other. What makes me mad is that people are so accepting of this lifestyle. Why are they settling for that mirage of a relationship or of a marriage, when you could have the real thing if you worked a little harder, communicated your needs and found the right person? It's just sad...sad that the ideology of both men and women has swayed from tradition and commitment to LAT relationships and whatever goes. What do you think? Had you heard of LAT relationships before?

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Stephen July 28, 2013 at 11:29 pm

I’ve been living in a LAT relationship for 6 years. The reason
I prefer this mode of relationship is because as you say
it allows me to be more independent from my partner.

Risk is not a nessesity in a relationship and LAT challenges
what individuals think the purpose of a relationship is.

I think LAT is the natural evolution of marriage and just another step
comparable to humans first becoming sedentary.

Yes computers and phones are transforming the way we live
and LAT reduces compromise in relationships dramatically!

LAT reduces conflict and allows couples to live more independently
than ever while allowing them to better systemise their
daily lives and routine in collaboration with one another.

LAT gives my relationship a blueprint to work from which is
logical and over-comes my partners potential to be needy and
a drain on my energies while allowing me to teach her to be
independent and simply focus on her own thing rather than always on me!


Stephen July 28, 2013 at 11:43 pm

I have achieved bliss in the LAT relationship
model and to me this is what life is all about.

Bliss is the highest possible state of happiness
charactetised by intense positive emotions.

As we spend time regularly both together and apart
in LAT, couples who still live in traditional relationships
have many more hurdles to overcome. This makes their
relationship style a lot more work for no apparent benefit.

I think if I did not have a LAT relationship my partner would
soon consider me lazy while I would soon consider her
a outright pain in the ass!

It is true I don’t need to see my partner everyday so long
as I talk to her everyday then the physical realm of our
relationship is better considered part-time.


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