Fathers be good to your daughters
In honor of the recent celebration of Fathers Day, I have decided to brag about my own father. My Dad is one of the most supportive people in my life and I am blessed to be his daughter. Whenever anything happens, good or bad, my dad is the first one to tell me how proud I make him and how much he loves me. He has set an amazing example for his four children as a loving husband, a supportive father, and in a million other aspects of his life. I am thankful for his example because he has given me a standard to look for in the men I choose to date. I hope that I will find that Eagle Scout, clean cut, upstanding type of man who can one day attempt to fill my dad's shoes. Finding someone like my dad would mean finding a protector, provider and strong leader, all of the things I want in a husband.
Janet Shaw Crouse wrote an article, Being a Daddy's Girl
, this week that addressed the influence that fathers have on their daughters. Her column spoke about the findings of the author Dr. Mary Jo Rapini:
"…the way a dad treats his little girl determines how she will feel about herself as a woman. If fathers admire their daughter’s achievements, character, and looks, says Dr. Rapini, that girl will become a confident and self-assured person who will choose a husband who treats her the same way. In fact, Dr. Rapini echoes the old maxim that the best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”
Obviously, not every little girl grows up with a father who lives up to these standards, probably because they do not even realize how much their little girls admire them. I hope more fathers will recognize their influence upon their daughter's self esteem and her idea of how she deserves to be treated by men. Girls are fragile and need love, protection and reassurance, provided by fathers, in order to become strong women. The lyrics of John Mayer seem very fitting and full of truth, “fathers be good to your daughters, daughters will love like you do.”