Conference Countdown: Today is the day!
I hope to see many of you at the National Conference today from 11:30-3pm at the Heritage Foundation. Please arrive promptly as Danielle Crittenden will be speaking towards the beginning.
Crittenden begins the epilogue by asking,
“So what, in the end, do we tell our own daughters?” (p. 181)
“We frequently hear that there is no going back, that women have gained too much, and changed too much, to ever be satisfied again with the unworldly comforts of hearth and motherhood. But there is no going forward, either, until we establish what exactly it is we want to gain. The previous generation of women succeeded in shattering the previous assumptions about women’s lives. But in the shattering, they left behind a new round of unanswered questions beginning with How? How can we be astronauts and lawyers and fighter pilots–and mothers? How can we be sexually independent–and wives? How can we demand to be treated identically to men–except for the times when we don’t want to be? A beleaguered male friend of mine once joked, ‘It’s not what the modern girls wants that matters–it’s what she’s going to have to settle for.’
It’s time to settle.
For nearly two generations women have been taught to deceive themselves about what it is they want. In the name of independence and equality, we’ve been told by our elders to deny our natural feelings–not to care too deeply about the men we sleep with when we’re young, to suppress our longing for commitment, to delay our desire to have children, to not trust or depend upon the men to whom we finally pledge our hearts. When we do have children, we are encouraged to sacrifice them to our jobs. And if we find ourselves unhappy and dissatisfied, we’ve been taught to blame not the wisdom of these teachings but others–the men who have hurt us, the society that discriminates against us, the politicians who have not responded to every one of our personal needs. It is, however, the modern wisdom itself that is faulty.” (p. 182-83)
“I hope for so many things for my daughter, but I hope above all that she understands this: that her fulfillment in life will come from knowing that she did not only what was right for herself but what was right for the people she loved, which in turn will be right for society as a whole.” (p. 191)