Are you excited for the NeW National Conference? Well, I am. Today, I am starting a countdown to Friday, June 27th, the day of the Conference. Since Danielle Crittenden is our keynote speaker, I am going to post a quote from Crittenden’s book, What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman, each morning for the next week. Enjoy!
From Chapter 1, “About Sex,”
These little rules of daily life protected a larger sexual order, one that ushered men and women into marriage at a younger age and kept them there by clamping down on extramarital temptations. Women, much more than men, depend on each other to agree on the terms by which we conduct our sex lives. If women don’t settle down at the same time as their friends, if we insist upon our right to lead sexually unconstrained lives into our thirties and beyond, then we have to accept that there will be consequences to the long-term stability of all marriages, and even to our own ability to marry. The twenty-two-year-old attractive woman, feeling as sexually powerful as it is possible to feel, will be unlikely to sympathize much with the thirty-three-year-old woman who complains about the shortage of men, just as she will have difficulty understanding a married woman’s mistrust of her, except as a function of envy. A young woman will not readily see that her sexual actions have any bearing on the other women around her, and certainly not upon those older than herself. The truth is, however, that a young woman’s actions intimately affect the lives of other women, even those she doesn’t know. If young, attractive women offer no-strings-attached sex, then men will have no pressing reason to tie themselves down. This might be of little concern to a woman who is not yet ready to settle down, but sooner or later it will become of urgent concern.” (p. 42-3)