We all know America is “sex-ridden.” It’s everwhere. Sex sells- sadly.
In Chapter 4 of Manning Up, Hymowitz fixes her whole focus on the industry of pornography and the readership of Maxim, Esquire, and Playboy. She says what we all know, that most single young men want sex, video-games, and freedom from responsibility. I wish she knew the men in my life – it would give her hope that not all SYM (single young males) are chauvinist sex-mongers; in fact, the men in my life would show her that there are heroes among us.
Unfortunately, however, Hymowitz fails to tie up her observations into any tight suggestions. Instead, she fixates on the problem, as if, just looking at the problem under the microscope will somehow scare it into a solution. Instead of the problem getting fixed, what happens is that the reader becomes so repulsed by the problem that they just want to give up thinking that no solution or antidote can be found.
Hymowitz would better serve her readers by suggesting a solution to her problem. I am hoping she does in the final chapter. In case she doesn’t do you have any suggestions about how to “fix” the problem of the “child-man” (i.e. the single young man who wants sex, video-games, and freedom from responsibility), do you have any thoughts about how to encourage boys to become men we can respect and love?
I can’t say for sure, but it might start with keeping our skirts down and our chin up, like one author, Jordan Christy says.