Dating Tips from a Financial Journalist

by Guest on October 11, 2016 · 0 comments

This is a guest post by NeW NYC leader, Laurel Recsetar.

NeW NYC hosted our annual anniversary celebration last night. To celebrate, we discussed two of our favorite topics: economics and dating. Our special guest was Jon Birger, award-winning business journalist and author of Date-onomics.

We all have friends with dating stories. “My Tinder date showed up 40 minutes late, he was already drunk…it was barely 7 P.M. on a week night.” “He never asked me on a date, he just invited me over to ‘his place’…at 2 A.M.” You’re all familiar with this. Either you or your best friend has been through it, probably multiple times. We’re quick to think Tinder has caused this problem. But Tinder is only 4 years old. And this problem began long ago. Women can’t seem to find husbands. We can’t even seem to find dates.

Birger offered some tips on how to navigate this lopsided dating market. Contrary to the “Dating Apocalypse” of Tinder theory, Birger says that Tinder and the like are not the source of our dating woes. Instead, it all stems from a sex ratio gap in which colled-educated women outnumber college-educated men. Birger argues that communities become over-sexualized and less monogamous when there is an oversupply of women. Look at most college campuses, where women tend to outnumber men 53%-47%. Hookup culture is rampant. There’s hardly a long-term relationship in sight. As more women than men gain college degrees, that male shortage spills into the professional world after college. We women can’t find dates because there are too many of us.

NeW women flooded the Q&A time with questions about how to solve the problem.

Here’s some dating advice from a happily married Mr. Birger:

  1. Geography matters. Manhattan has a notoriously bad dating market with a 3:2 dating sex ratio. But it’s not uniquely bad. It’s a national phenomenon. If you’re content with changing locations to boost your dating prospects, move to Seattle, Silicon Valley, or Columbus, OH. They attract a disproportionately large amount of college-educated men. Which leads to his second point…
  1. Take the “must have a college degree” off of your dating checklist. Are you absolutely sure you’ll be happier marrying the Tumi gym bag toting, Chubby wearing financier you meet at the wine bar than the FDNY fireman you meet at a pub in Brooklyn, who volunteers at the animal shelter on his off-days and, oh by the way, he’s a FIREMAN? He’s literally a hero. Just be more open minded. You might be surprised.
  1. Don’t delay getting serious about dating. This is not a push for early marriage or marriage at all. It’s math. If you want to get married, don’t wait until you’re 30 to start looking. The odds of finding that college-educated (or not?) man get increasingly worse the longer you wait. Between graduation and turning 30 the odds move from 1.3:1 to 3:1. That means when you graduate there are 11 men for every 15 women. By the time you’re 30, there are 5 men for every 15 women.

In the long run, we need to figure out to how to get more boys to attend college. Boys tend to fall behind in school because, as Birger argues, boys mature at a slower rate than girls. They start school with a learning deficit and they are never able to make it up. Overall, Birger thinks we should let the free market sort itself out and correct the shortage on its own. In the meantime, you can better navigate the dating scene with Birger’s tips. And, encourage your brother to finish college. For our sake.


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