Be Fabulous.

by Danelle on April 20, 2011 · 1 comment

I am almost halfway into the quarter, and with my workload and the rainy weather, I have begun to feel bogged down from studying and general stress. I went searching for some encouragement, and stumbled upon this quote by Marianne Williamson:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves: ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?
This quote certainly made me feel better – raised my self-esteem, encouraged me, and gave me a much needed boost of confidence. In my case, I applied the quote’s meaning to my schoolwork, but I think that it can be applied to everything, including hook-ups. OSU NeW has been reading Laura Sessions Stepp’s Unhooked, and so after spending the next few hours doing schoolwork, I sat and thought of how Williamson’s words would inspire the girls in the book who are active participants in the hook-up culture on campus. The hook-up culture emerged for a variety of reasons, but one of the most important is that Second Wave Feminists and the media taught women that the only way they can feel empowered is to have one night stands.  Thus, women who lack self-confidence and want to feel empowered get pulled into the hook-up culture and sadly, their self-esteem drops even more (See this article by Steven E. Rhodes, a professor at the University of Virginia). If more women believe that they are “brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous” then women will not need to hook-up to feel empowered. Women will soon realize that they do not need another person to feel strong – all that they need is their own confidence and belief in their God-given talents. Marianne Williamson is telling you to believe in yourself. Take her advice.

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Melissa April 21, 2011 at 9:07 am

I love that you shared this quote! It is one of my favorites. To take your point further, I feel that a woman’s self confidence isn’t just limited to her own self acceptance, but also understanding that respecting yourself involves having others respect you. When a woman is truly self confident and feels empowered, she has the ability to pursue relationships where love, trust, and respect flourish. I think most would agree that relationships in today’s hookup culture lack these qualities.

It is a shame that “brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous” young women fall prey to common misconceptions about hooking up and settle for one night “relationships” that are anything but empowering. A truly empowered woman knows that she deserves better.


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