Are all women nuts? Or just when they become ex-girlfriend status, then they are classified as nuts? What makes a man perceive a woman as “a nut”? And are all women potential nuts?
Wendy Shalit poses these questions at the beginning of Chapter 9 in her book, A Return to Modesty. In 1899, Edward Sandford Martin said the following about girls:
It seems that there maybe something rotten in the United States. We live in a time of freedom and liberation. Girls can become anything their hearts desire, a lawyer, a veterinarian, a neurologist, a coach, a CEO, etc, etc. But, as Shalit notes, there is one thing that girls are restricted from. They are not allowed to grow up and be women.
We are constantly told to grow up and to stop being sensitive and intense. But, this has come at great costs.
As women, should we keep being sensitive to rejection to avoid becoming indifferent to love? What does it mean to be a woman, not a femme fatale (the literary “deadly woman” as temptress), but instead, a femme vivante (a living woman)?